A recovery from narcissistic sociopath relationship abuse. Using guilt trips to control and manipulate their victim. Playing on their emotions. Putting their "spin" on the truth to confuse and manipulate. This behavior is abusive!
White Guilt: the primary weapon of the emotional abusers is the deliberate infliction of guilt. They use guilt the same way a loan shark uses money. they don't want the 'debt' paid off because they live quite happily on the 'interest' - Andrew Vachss
Be careful about telling a narcissist's victim that they have to stay in touch because the narcissist is their mother, father, grandparent, relative, etc. Not every biological parent is capable of being safe or loving.