Wow how powerful What they hate is their own lack of self-control, so they control you. What they despise is your strength. What they hold in utmost contempt is your refusal to be controlled and to accept their lie that it's your fault.
Being a doormat is NOT in anyway cute or make anyone jealous of you either lol Don't ever think a man loves you because he keeps coming back. That man loves the power he has over you. He knows you'll take him back.
"Ten Reasons Why Abusers Don't Change" From "Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" by Lundy Bancroft. This article offers invaluable insight as to why he's so resistant to change.