Sometimes it seems that the louder someone claims sainthood, the bigger the horns they are hiding. - Steve Maraboli
It's called creating or enlisting "flying monkeys". It's also the key to a Narcissist's control over their victim who winds up isolated and without anyone to listen, believe or take their side. Often enough, the victim winds up doubting their own sanity while the Narcissist's flying monkeys (usually family and close friends) go about blindly defending the Narcissist in question and refusing to listen to the victim or entertain any criticism of their creator despite it's validity. ~ A.L.N.
This is totally BM. She can manipulate anyone and any situation! And we somehow are always the "bad guys".