If you are in an abusive relationship, you will never “win”. Period. That’s because the deck is completely, totally and thoroughly stacked against you. Every time your abuser is unhappy with anything; his clothes, the weather, the traffic, you name it… He will find a way to make it your fault. The good news is that, once you can reconcile this concept in your mind and heart, you can begin to heal and get stronger. It’s not about you, it’s about your abuser.